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HELP–All Of My Friends Are Married!

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Ever feel like you’re the only single person left? Like there’s NO ONE to hang out with because all your friends are either married or in long term relationships? Kind of what a drag, right?

Well, maybe not.

Maybe hanging out with your married friends isn’t such a bad thing. Here’s why:

It’s so secret that the people you hang out with are you biggest influencers. If they’re happy, there’s a good chance you’ll be happy too. If they’re healthy, chances are you will be too. It’s natural–the more we hang around with someone, the more we take on their habits and characteristics. Sometimes we might even start dressing like those people!

It’s usually not a conscious choice. Think about it–do you go to yoga class because all of your friends will be there after work? Of course. But what if your closest friends chose to go to happy hour every day? Chances are that soon you’d be drinking cocktails along with them, instead of sweating it out in downward dog.

Now back to your married friends. What if the people you’re hanging around are in happy and healthy relationships, the kinds of relationships you’d like to be in some day? Well, like other influencers, you’ll start to take on their habits, thoughts, and perspectives. Think that’s a good thing? You betcha!

Because thinking and behaving like they do will help you to be more like them. You’ll feel what it’s like to be in their situation. And by feeling it, you’ll start to become more like a person who’s in a great relationship. And when you feel it from the inside out, that’s when you attract the relationship you want. Why? The feeling is already there in you!

So, maybe it’s not such a bad thing to hang out with all your married friends?

Whattya think? Is it a drag to hang out with all the marrieds? Or you biggest relationship secret weapon? Let me know in the comments section, I can’t wait to hear. I know this is sort of a doozy so keep the comments coming.



Too Fat to Date

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Spring has sprung! And to get ready for the warmer months I’ve decided to enroll in a six-week challenge at my gym. (Yes, I got to the gym!) The challenge is simple–attend as many classes as you can (both strength and cardio) and measure your change in body fat percentage. I’m pretty excited to get my heart pumping!

I asked one of the challengers what motivated her most, and she bluntly said, “I’m too fat to date. I want to get in better shape before I start dating again.”

WHAT??!!! Too fat too date?!

But she got me thinking–is there an ideal weight, fitness level, or body fat percentage that makes you “ready?” The answer is a Big Fat NO.

What matters most is body confidence, not your body weight. If you’re feeling strong, healthy, and moving toward your optimum form, then you’re gonna feel fantastic! Working out and taking control of your health builds confidence. And when you’re confident, men notice.

On the other hand, if you’re not feeling confident–heavy, bloated, uncomfortable in your own skin–it doesn’t matter what the scale says. It doesn’t matter if your friends tell you that you look great. If you’re not feeling confident in your body than no one’s going to ask you out. Simple as that.

So please, by all means work out, take a yoga class, a zumba class, or go for a long walk! Start building your body confidence, and you’ll become sexy and attractive no matter what your weight!

What do YOU think? Have you ever felt too fat to date? Let me know in the comments section. Can’t wait to hear your thoughts.



The 3 Date Rule, explained

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In last week’s episode of BDG.TV we talked about body issues, and how they can affect your dating. You heard about a woman who felt insecure about her own body, and judged a perfectly good man as “not being able to run a marathon” (true story!).

I suggested in the comments section that if this woman, or anyone for that matter, finds herself veering into “judge-y” territory about a man’s appearance, she apply The 3 Date Rule.

The 3 Date Rule: If you’re judging, commit to two more dates as long as he’s a nice guy.

BUT, how can you tell if he’s a nice guy? In the video, I offer three ways to figure it out. Maybe there are more? What do YOU think of the 3 Date Rule? How do you tell if someone’s a “nice guy?” Let me know in the comments section!