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Dating a Daddy–Yea or Nay?

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Today’s episode of BDG.TV is a personal one for me. Some of you may know that for a while there, I only dated men with children. I didn’t plan it that way, it just happened. And in the process, I created some hard and fast ideas about daddies.

But before I share them with you, I’ll tell you about Ellen, a friend who just starting dating a man with a young child. It was totally blowing her mind! Dating a daddy made her feel mature and responsible. Simply, she felt like she was in an adult relationship. And she liked it.

Yet, some women wouldn’t dream of dating a daddy. They hate knowing they’ll always be #2 in their man’s life. That there are school plays, parent teacher nights, and little league games to schedule around. What a drag!

As for me, I was with Ellen. After my third daddy, I got the idea that daddies were more mature, stable, and adult-like. I also believed they were more emotional evolved, since they so freely displayed their love to their children.

But I made a big mistake. I ASSUMED men who are loving and amazing toward their kids are automatically as wonderful and loving in their relationships. NOT TRUE. In fact, it’s possible, and quite common for men to compartmentalize their romantic relationships from their father/child relationships.

So, should you date a daddy? Here’s how to decide:

1) Judge the man on his own, regardless of whether he has a kid or not!

2) If he rocks the house and has a kid–MORE TO LOVE!

3) If he doesn’t have a kid–that’s great too, as long as he treats you like gold.

Hope that helps clarify things for you, ladies. It’s really simple–if you love the guy, you’ll love his family situation too.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments–have you ever dated a daddy? What was your experience? More mature? Better? Worse? Let me know, I can’t wait to get the conversation going!

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