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Why You Gotta Be So MEAN?

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Why you gotta be so MEAN?

One of my clients is the nicest woman I know. In fact, she defines herself by her generosity toward her friends and family. So I was SHOCKED when she told me that she was MEAN to ex-boyfriend during their break-up. She insulted him, put him own, and basically treated him like crap.

WHY?

She explained that he would be devastated if he got dumped, so she just couldn’t do it. Instead, she figured she just  “show him” how much the relationship wasn’t working by being, ya know, mean. In time, he would figure it out and break up with her.

Logical, right? UH, WRONG.

That’s just mean.

Being mean isn’t doing anyone any favors. No matter how sad, upsetting, or devastating a break-up feels, communicating honestly and intimately is the kindest thing you can do.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments–have you ever acted mean to get someone else to dump you? OR, have you been honest, intimate and connected even through a break up? 

TIll I see you soon, take good care of your sweet heart.

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Too Fat to Date

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Spring has sprung! And to get ready for the warmer months I’ve decided to enroll in a six-week challenge at my gym. (Yes, I got to the gym!) The challenge is simple–attend as many classes as you can (both strength and cardio) and measure your change in body fat percentage. I’m pretty excited to get my heart pumping!

I asked one of the challengers what motivated her most, and she bluntly said, “I’m too fat to date. I want to get in better shape before I start dating again.”

WHAT??!!! Too fat too date?!

But she got me thinking–is there an ideal weight, fitness level, or body fat percentage that makes you “ready?” The answer is a Big Fat NO.

What matters most is body confidence, not your body weight. If you’re feeling strong, healthy, and moving toward your optimum form, then you’re gonna feel fantastic! Working out and taking control of your health builds confidence. And when you’re confident, men notice.

On the other hand, if you’re not feeling confident–heavy, bloated, uncomfortable in your own skin–it doesn’t matter what the scale says. It doesn’t matter if your friends tell you that you look great. If you’re not feeling confident in your body than no one’s going to ask you out. Simple as that.

So please, by all means work out, take a yoga class, a zumba class, or go for a long walk! Start building your body confidence, and you’ll become sexy and attractive no matter what your weight!

What do YOU think? Have you ever felt too fat to date? Let me know in the comments section. Can’t wait to hear your thoughts.

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Why Don’t Men Talk to Me?

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It’s Friday night. You get all gussied up, go out, and hope to meet someone interesting. But once you get to the bar you just end up just looking around and talking to your friends. I mean, really–you wore heels for this?!

Frustrating, right?

I know. I’ve wondered many times, “Why don’t men talk to me?” Do I look fat? Am I doing something weird that makes them stay away? Should I walk to the bathroom oh so slowly (again) just to make sure they see me? I mean really, what’s it gonna take to actually get a “hello?”

The truth is that men DO want to talk to you. In fact, they’re dying to talk to you. When they see you at the bar, or in the coffee shop, or even in the Key Foods getting your milk and eggs, they’re intrigued. And they’re scared as shit.

You see, talking to women is hard. And talking to a woman like YOU is really hard. You’re beautiful! And you could reject them. You could walk the other way. Or worse, you could immediately put them in the “friend zone” where you think “aw, he’s so sweet.” But you and I both know you’d never ever want to see that guy without a shirt. Ugh, gross!

So, what do you do about this? Well, I have a few ideas in this video. I’m not saying you should be as overt as I am (you gotta watch to see what I did to get the guy) but you could make yourself a little more…um, noticeable.

Check it out here:

So, what do you think? Is this a viable way to get a man’s attention? Share in the comments section below–What’s the kookiest thing YOU’VE done to get someone to talk to you?

P.S.–This is NOT a typical episode of BDG.TV. It’s a shameless share of bearing my soul and overcoming my deepest fears of performing. I sincerely hope you enjoy it!

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