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Why You Gotta Be So MEAN?

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Why you gotta be so MEAN?

One of my clients is the nicest woman I know. In fact, she defines herself by her generosity toward her friends and family. So I was SHOCKED when she told me that she was MEAN to ex-boyfriend during their break-up. She insulted him, put him own, and basically treated him like crap.


She explained that he would be devastated if he got dumped, so she just couldn’t do it. Instead, she figured she just  “show him” how much the relationship wasn’t working by being, ya know, mean. In time, he would figure it out and break up with her.

Logical, right? UH, WRONG.

That’s just mean.

Being mean isn’t doing anyone any favors. No matter how sad, upsetting, or devastating a break-up feels, communicating honestly and intimately is the kindest thing you can do.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments–have you ever acted mean to get someone else to dump you? OR, have you been honest, intimate and connected even through a break up? 

TIll I see you soon, take good care of your sweet heart.



The 3 Date Rule, explained

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In last week’s episode of BDG.TV we talked about body issues, and how they can affect your dating. You heard about a woman who felt insecure about her own body, and judged a perfectly good man as “not being able to run a marathon” (true story!).

I suggested in the comments section that if this woman, or anyone for that matter, finds herself veering into “judge-y” territory about a man’s appearance, she apply The 3 Date Rule.

The 3 Date Rule: If you’re judging, commit to two more dates as long as he’s a nice guy.

BUT, how can you tell if he’s a nice guy? In the video, I offer three ways to figure it out. Maybe there are more? What do YOU think of the 3 Date Rule? How do you tell if someone’s a “nice guy?” Let me know in the comments section!




How to Let Go of Your Emotional Baggage

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How’s that for a title, huh?

Believe it or not, your emotional baggage can actually be good thing! I mean, just last week I unexpectedly ran into one of my ex-boyfriends. And you know what? It was kind of awesome.

You’ll never guess the first words out of his mouth! (Watch the video below to find out)

As you know, we’ve been talking a lot about self-love around here. And part of self-love is loving your past experiences. And yes, even loving your ex-boyfriends.

OK, I know it’s kind of a lot to ask you to love your ex-boyfriends. So instead, how about honoring your time together? No matter how long your relationship–3 dates, 3 months, or 3 years, honoring your time with your ex’s can totally change the way you think and feel about your past, and most importantly, your present.

In this week’s episode of BDG.TV I share my personal mantra to let go of my own emotional baggage.

Try it!

And head on over to the comments section below and let me know how it works. Also, have you ever run into an ex-boyfriend? How did it go? Were you wearing mascara? Was it totally awkward and weird? Sad? Or maybe kinda sweet? Let me know in the comments section, I can’t wait to hear all your ex-boyfriend run-in stories!