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The DO’s and DON’TS of Booty Calls

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OK, it’s the holiday season. Maybe you don’t exactly have a one-and-only, but you’ve still got that ex-flame that you kinda-sorta keep in touch with. And even though it didn’t work out long-term, you still think he’s a nice guy. And let’s be honest, it’s sort of a sure thing.

That’s what a client told me as she was trying to decide if it was a good idea to call him for a booty call.

“It would be fun, and I’d get my sexy playful juices flowing! Right?”

Well, not exactly. Yes, having a fun night is a great thing, no matter where it goes. But having it with your ex-flame? That can get a little confusing. Why risk getting attached, falling for him all over again, or most importantly, possibly weakening your own self-confidence and credibility. After all, you had a conversation with this guy about how you didn’t want to be with him. So stick to it, woman!


DO step away from the phone. Instead, go and sit your cute tushy on any bar stool. And know that if you wanted to, you could get laid tonight. You’ve still got it! And if you want it, it’s yours. I know, I know, maybe one night stands aren’t your thing. But just knowing it’s possible is sometimes all you need to get the fun, sexy feelings you were going for all along.

Come on over to the blog and join the conversation. Leave a comment–Have you ever called an ex-flame for a booty call? What happened? Was it fun and light, or intense and not quite worth the trouble? Let me know!

Till I see you soon in the comments, take good care of your sweet heart.