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Do You Have the Power?

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Here’s a riddle: What do Finance, Yoga, and Dating have in common? Well, let’s consider who’s got the most POWER.

1) On the Trading Floor, who’s got it? The junior associate swinging the baseball bat and talking loudly to his friends in the next cubicle? OR the woman in the corner office, who doesn’t have to raise her voice. Just hearing her Manolo’s clank down the hall is enough to make everyone sit up straiter in their chair.

2) In the Yoga Studio, who’s got it? The dude who’s breathing heavily and loudly, who jumps and lands on his mat with a thump and a grunt? OR the lithe dancer who seemingly moves in slow motion so that every jump lands without a single sound?

3) In the Bar, who’s got it? The woman who enters the room with a splash, says hello to everyone and immediately kisses the bartender on each cheek? OR is it the woman who steps into the bar, pauses silently to survey the scene allowing each and every man and woman to see her, and fills the room with her presence without saying a thing?

OK–did you figure out? What do Finance, Yoga, and Dating have in common?

Answer: The person with the most quiet confidence has the power!

OK, so how do you get that confidence? Well, it’s a practice like anything else. But keep in mind, you don’t have to do a whole song and dance to convince people that you’re powerful. Just believe it. And everyone around you will too.

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What do you think? Is quiet confidence the key to power? What about your life? Tell is in the comments section below: Do YOU have the power? I can’t wait to hear your answers!

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Do You Feel Like an Insecure Little Girl?

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I know you’re a strong powerful woman–at work, in the gym, with all your relationships with your friends and family.

But what happens when it comes to dating? Do you become an insecure little girl? That’s what a new client told me. She’s totally together and confident in every area of her life. But then when she gets around men she likes–BOOM–she becomes tongue-tied toddler! What gives? She doesn’t feel like herself but she doesn’t know what to do!

Well, she (and many other women like her) made the mistake of compartmentalizing her life. That is, she keeps her work life separate from her spiritual life, which is separate from her friend and family life, which of course, is also separate from her love life.

So she gets better at what she’s already good at–work and creating deep friendships. But she totally neglects what she’s less good at, like flirting. And so when she’s around a man she thinks is cute, she feels like an insecure little girl. Not a good scene.

What to do? Consider your life as a full package, not a collection of parts. That is, your work, spiritual, friendships and of course LOVE life are all part of the same being–YOU! And YOU dear, are a big girl who deserves the best. Remember that! And maybe next time you’re flirting with a guy, you’ll feel like the powerful love the machine that you are!

Deal?

What do you think? Have you ever felt like a little girl in one area of your life, and a strong woman in the other? Let me know in the comments, I can’t wait to hear!

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Dating a Daddy–Yea or Nay?

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Today’s episode of BDG.TV is a personal one for me. Some of you may know that for a while there, I only dated men with children. I didn’t plan it that way, it just happened. And in the process, I created some hard and fast ideas about daddies.

But before I share them with you, I’ll tell you about Ellen, a friend who just starting dating a man with a young child. It was totally blowing her mind! Dating a daddy made her feel mature and responsible. Simply, she felt like she was in an adult relationship. And she liked it.

Yet, some women wouldn’t dream of dating a daddy. They hate knowing they’ll always be #2 in their man’s life. That there are school plays, parent teacher nights, and little league games to schedule around. What a drag!

As for me, I was with Ellen. After my third daddy, I got the idea that daddies were more mature, stable, and adult-like. I also believed they were more emotional evolved, since they so freely displayed their love to their children.

But I made a big mistake. I ASSUMED men who are loving and amazing toward their kids are automatically as wonderful and loving in their relationships. NOT TRUE. In fact, it’s possible, and quite common for men to compartmentalize their romantic relationships from their father/child relationships.

So, should you date a daddy? Here’s how to decide:

1) Judge the man on his own, regardless of whether he has a kid or not!

2) If he rocks the house and has a kid–MORE TO LOVE!

3) If he doesn’t have a kid–that’s great too, as long as he treats you like gold.

Hope that helps clarify things for you, ladies. It’s really simple–if you love the guy, you’ll love his family situation too.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments–have you ever dated a daddy? What was your experience? More mature? Better? Worse? Let me know, I can’t wait to get the conversation going!

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