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Your Biological Clock

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In today’s episode of BDG.TV we’re talking the big elephant in the room when we talk about dating.

Your biological clock.

Remember that scene in “My Cousin Vinny” when Marisa Tomei declares her clock is ticking, ticking ticking…?

Yeah. Maybe yours is too? Maybe you can’t even hear yours because you’ve pushed it aside for so long?

Look, I’ve spoken to a lot of super smart and successful women who make a huge mistake that they wish they could’ve avoided sooner. They don’t acknowledge their biological clock. They out off thinking about what they want in terms of family and children. And yet, just tenderly giving themselves to the space to consider it could have changed things for them, profoundly.

There’s no big action to take. No declarations to make. Just think about it, what do you want? And then, wait for the answer. The asking alone can make you feel more hopeful, safe, and happy about your future.

But the time to ask is NOW. Not when you’ve already met your man, or after you’re married, and certainly not when you’re choosing neighborhoods according to the best public school districts.

Ladies, I’m gonna be a stickler on this. Please. Think about this now. What do you want in terms of family, kids? Give yourself the space and time to consider it. You deserve it.

Have you given this enough thought in your own life? Let us know in the comments section. I know it’s a sensitive topic but your opinion can help many other women out there. So let us know what you think. Do you want kids? Do you NOT want kids? Have you thought it through?

Till I see you soon, take good care of your sweet heart.

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Dating a Daddy–Yea or Nay?

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Today’s episode of BDG.TV is a personal one for me. Some of you may know that for a while there, I only dated men with children. I didn’t plan it that way, it just happened. And in the process, I created some hard and fast ideas about daddies.

But before I share them with you, I’ll tell you about Ellen, a friend who just starting dating a man with a young child. It was totally blowing her mind! Dating a daddy made her feel mature and responsible. Simply, she felt like she was in an adult relationship. And she liked it.

Yet, some women wouldn’t dream of dating a daddy. They hate knowing they’ll always be #2 in their man’s life. That there are school plays, parent teacher nights, and little league games to schedule around. What a drag!

As for me, I was with Ellen. After my third daddy, I got the idea that daddies were more mature, stable, and adult-like. I also believed they were more emotional evolved, since they so freely displayed their love to their children.

But I made a big mistake. I ASSUMED men who are loving and amazing toward their kids are automatically as wonderful and loving in their relationships. NOT TRUE. In fact, it’s possible, and quite common for men to compartmentalize their romantic relationships from their father/child relationships.

So, should you date a daddy? Here’s how to decide:

1) Judge the man on his own, regardless of whether he has a kid or not!

2) If he rocks the house and has a kid–MORE TO LOVE!

3) If he doesn’t have a kid–that’s great too, as long as he treats you like gold.

Hope that helps clarify things for you, ladies. It’s really simple–if you love the guy, you’ll love his family situation too.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments–have you ever dated a daddy? What was your experience? More mature? Better? Worse? Let me know, I can’t wait to get the conversation going!

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