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2 Rules To WIN Any Argument

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I’m going to tell you a true story. (Names and details have been changed for privacy, of course.)

Laura and I are sitting across from each other at a local coffee shop, talking about her long-distance boyfriend. He’s in San Francisco, she’s in NYC.

She wants him to use the word “us” more often. She wants him to be faithful while they’re apart. She wants him to stand up to his mother.

Laura didn’t tell me any of this explicitly. She only told me how dreamy he is, how much she loves him, and how their lives together could be so perfect…if only he’d make a few little changes.

So I listened. I didn’t tell her what to feel–she already knew exactly how she felt. Instead, I told her what to say so he would listen too. Only then could she win the argument (or any argument for that matter) she had with him.

Let’s be clear, I know arguments aren’t always about winning. In this case, “winning” is communicating clearly and effectively (even while tears and snot are dripping down your face).

Watch this week’s episode of BDG.TV to find out what I told her.

Do you agree or disagree with my advice? Have YOU ever had an argument where you wished you’d done things differently? Let me know in the comment section below.

Till I see you soon in the comments, take good care of your sweet heart.



The Secret Code of Exes

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It’s Friday night. You’re getting ready for a second date with this new guy you’re really into. And then, out of nowhere–BAM–you get a text from your ex-boyfriend (you know, the one you really loved):

“hey what’s up?”

In the span of a tenth of a second, you’re excited, annoyed, and confused all at the same time. Does he want to get back together? Has he finally realized that you’re the woman he can’t live without? Does he know you’re dating again?

What does this mean? What do you DO?

It’s what I call The Secret Code of Exes. (Not ethics, exes)

In this week’s episode of BDG.TV I expose the secret knowledge that all men have about their exes. I also explain what you should do about it and the best way to respond!

As always, the most interesting conversations happen in the comments section. Have this ever happened to you? Has an ex-boyfriend nudged themselves into your consciousness just as you were getting serious with someone else? I want to hear about it!

Till I see you soon in the comments section, take good care of your sweet heart!



The Truth about Flirting

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As you know, I’m single. I’m just getting back into the flirting game.

When I’m flirting, I want to appear powerful, sexy and impressive. I want to put my best self forward, ya know?

So when Sam, the guy I’ve been flirting with, asked me “How’s it going?” I was stumped. You see, he was innocently referring to my launch of BDG School.

OK, I’m going to let you in on a little secret–the launch was two weeks of total overwhelm, self-doubt and insecurity. It was very challenging. And yes, there were tears.

But did I want to tell him that? Hell no! Instead, I wanted to tell him that it was great, and I was totally in control.

So, what did I say? Find out below in this week’s episode of BDG.TV. You might be surprised at the outcome!

As always, the most exciting conversations happen in the comments section. Let me know if you’ve ever wanted to “embellish” the truth while flirting? What did you say? I can’t wait to hear your responses!

Till I see you soon in the comments, take good care of your sweet heart.