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Too Fat to Date

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Spring has sprung! And to get ready for the warmer months I’ve decided to enroll in a six-week challenge at my gym. (Yes, I got to the gym!) The challenge is simple–attend as many classes as you can (both strength and cardio) and measure your change in body fat percentage. I’m pretty excited to get my heart pumping!

I asked one of the challengers what motivated her most, and she bluntly said, “I’m too fat to date. I want to get in better shape before I start dating again.”

WHAT??!!! Too fat too date?!

But she got me thinking–is there an ideal weight, fitness level, or body fat percentage that makes you “ready?” The answer is a Big Fat NO.

What matters most is body confidence, not your body weight. If you’re feeling strong, healthy, and moving toward your optimum form, then you’re gonna feel fantastic! Working out and taking control of your health builds confidence. And when you’re confident, men notice.

On the other hand, if you’re not feeling confident–heavy, bloated, uncomfortable in your own skin–it doesn’t matter what the scale says. It doesn’t matter if your friends tell you that you look great. If you’re not feeling confident in your body than no one’s going to ask you out. Simple as that.

So please, by all means work out, take a yoga class, a zumba class, or go for a long walk! Start building your body confidence, and you’ll become sexy and attractive no matter what your weight!

What do YOU think? Have you ever felt too fat to date? Let me know in the comments section. Can’t wait to hear your thoughts.



2 Rules To WIN Any Argument

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I’m going to tell you a true story. (Names and details have been changed for privacy, of course.)

Laura and I are sitting across from each other at a local coffee shop, talking about her long-distance boyfriend. He’s in San Francisco, she’s in NYC.

She wants him to use the word “us” more often. She wants him to be faithful while they’re apart. She wants him to stand up to his mother.

Laura didn’t tell me any of this explicitly. She only told me how dreamy he is, how much she loves him, and how their lives together could be so perfect…if only he’d make a few little changes.

So I listened. I didn’t tell her what to feel–she already knew exactly how she felt. Instead, I told her what to say so he would listen too. Only then could she win the argument (or any argument for that matter) she had with him.

Let’s be clear, I know arguments aren’t always about winning. In this case, “winning” is communicating clearly and effectively (even while tears and snot are dripping down your face).

Watch this week’s episode of BDG.TV to find out what I told her.

Do you agree or disagree with my advice? Have YOU ever had an argument where you wished you’d done things differently? Let me know in the comment section below.

Till I see you soon in the comments, take good care of your sweet heart.



HELP–He only Facebook PM’s Me!

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Picture it: You meet a guy, and you’re getting along great. You flirt, you give him your number, and then…you become facebook friends. Seems harmless, right?

But the next thing you know, the only way he’s communicating with you is through facebook private messaging. At first it was kinda cute. But now you’d really love a phone call or (gasp!) a real, live face-to-face date one of these days. However, it seems the only way to get his attention is to respond to his facebook private messages.

For you, maybe it’s texting. Or twitter. Or instagram. But no matter how it’s happening, the communication just doesn’t feel like enough. What does it mean? And what can you do about it?

Well, that’s what I’m talking about in this weeks episode of BDG.TV. Watch below, and find out the two things it could mean, and the one single thing you absolutely MUST do about it.

I know you’ve dealt with this before. Who’s communicating with you on facebook or text or twitter? Are you cool with that? Do you want more? What do you do, and what do you tell them?

Come on over to the comments section and let me know what you think. I can’t wait to hear about your experiences on this!

Till I see you soon, take good care of your sweet heart.