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Your Biological Clock

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In today’s episode of BDG.TV we’re talking the big elephant in the room when we talk about dating.

Your biological clock.

Remember that scene in “My Cousin Vinny” when Marisa Tomei declares her clock is ticking, ticking ticking…?

Yeah. Maybe yours is too? Maybe you can’t even hear yours because you’ve pushed it aside for so long?

Look, I’ve spoken to a lot of super smart and successful women who make a huge mistake that they wish they could’ve avoided sooner. They don’t acknowledge their biological clock. They out off thinking about what they want in terms of family and children. And yet, just tenderly giving themselves to the space to consider it could have changed things for them, profoundly.

There’s no big action to take. No declarations to make. Just think about it, what do you want? And then, wait for the answer. The asking alone can make you feel more hopeful, safe, and happy about your future.

But the time to ask is NOW. Not when you’ve already met your man, or after you’re married, and certainly not when you’re choosing neighborhoods according to the best public school districts.

Ladies, I’m gonna be a stickler on this. Please. Think about this now. What do you want in terms of family, kids? Give yourself the space and time to consider it. You deserve it.

Have you given this enough thought in your own life? Let us know in the comments section. I know it’s a sensitive topic but your opinion can help many other women out there. So let us know what you think. Do you want kids? Do you NOT want kids? Have you thought it through?

Till I see you soon, take good care of your sweet heart.



I’m Shocked! What you *Really* Want From a Man!

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I’m shocked! I thought I really knew what a savvy, successful, and stunning woman like you wants from a man. 

But BOY, was I wrong! After interviewing dozens of women about their dating and love lives (for an exciting new project that I’ll share more about soon) I realize I was wrong, wrong, wrong!

I thought your top priority was security, chivalry, and of course LOVE. Now don’t get me wrong, you do want these things. But they’re not at the tippity-top of the list. Can you guess what is?

Someone who just gets it about…work! That’s right! You want to be understood, seen, and truly supported emotionally and spiritually in the work that you do. You don’t want your man to be your boss, or even in the same industry, necessarily. But you do want him to get it. You want him to get how driven you are. You want him to get it that for you it’s not just work, it’s your passion, and an expression of your best self!

Does this sound like you? Do you want a man who just gets it about work? Let’s get this conversation going, I have a feeling it’s gonna be a juicy one! Leave a comment–What do you really want from a man? I can’t wait to hear from you!

Till I see you soon, take good care of your sweet heart.



Is He Sending Mixed Messages?

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Wouldn’t it be nice if men said what they meant, so you knew where you stood? Yeah, that would be amazing!

But instead, men (and women, let’s be fair) tend to send a lot of mixed messages. Take for example, Ellen, who was telling me about her truly baffling on-again, off-again flirtation with a guy.

The scenario would go like this: 1) They’d spend some time together at a club they’re both part of, 2) He’d ask to hangout sometime, 3) She’s say “Yes, that sounds great,” And 4) He’s never follow up.

What gives? Is he scared of her? Does he not really like her at all?

No. He’s just unclear about what he wants. It’s true, you answered him relatively clearly with a “Yes, sounds great.” BUT I believe you’re attracting men who are unclear about what they want because you’re unclear about what you want.

But don’t worry–you didn’t do anything wrong. If you don’t know down to every little cell in your body, what you want in a relationship, how you want to feel, how you want to relate, and how you want to live your life with your partner, you’re normal. That takes some work. But it’s well worth it!

Because when you figure it out, that person will magically appear clearly and confidently. No mixed messages!

Leave a comment below–Have you ever received mixed messages from a guy? I can’t wait to hear!

Till I see you soon, take good care of your sweet heart.