Tag Archives: Self-Love

Stop Worrying About Getting Hurt

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You probably already know it’s important to be open and receptive to attract your love. But what if you’re worried about getting hurt? Can you stop worrying, and start attracting your man?

The answer is YES. The trick is to understand the 2 Kinds of Hurt. 

The first kind of hurt rattles your sense of self. You know it’s the first kind when you start to ask yourself questions like “Am I a good person?” “Am I deserving of love?” or “Am I mean, careless, or just no good?” You begin to question the very things you know and love about yourself. It could take years of therapy to undo this kind of hurt.

The second kind of hurt rattles your world. For example, when I broke up with my live-in boyfriend I was upset, sad, angry and confused. I was also worried that I wouldn’t have anywhere to live! Where would I go? When would I pack? Ugh..so many things to consider. But at the core, I knew I was still good. And most importantly, I believed that somehow, I was going to be ok. And sure enough, I started to feel a whole lot better in just a few weeks.

My hope is that if you absolutely must get hurt, then it’s the second kind, not the first.

How to make that happen? You can increase the odds with a daily practice of self-love. It can be a morning meditation, yoga practice, or just moisturizing every night to take care of your wintery legs.

Building your self-love now will help you let go of the worry of getting hurt in the future. When you do this, you can feel confident that you won’t get shaken at the core, and you’re going to feel better fast.

I talk about it in more detail in this episode of BDG.TV.

Have you ever experienced the first kind of hurt? The second kind? Both? How did you feel better? Let me know what you think in the comments!

Till I see you soon in the comments, take good care of your sweet heart.

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The Myth of the “Power Couple”

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Ever wondered what it would be like to be in a “Power Couple”? You know, Kim and Kanye, Beyonce and Jay-Z, Miley and…oops, that didn’t quite work out. Well, you know what I mean.

Imagine it–a more accomplished man would sweep you off your feet, mentor you, bring you to higher levels, and together you’d “wow” the circle you both run in. You’d become a power couple!

Seems like a pretty great dream, huh? Well, it’s a myth. Here’s the hard truth–no one, I mean NO ONE is going to elevate you to higher levels of success, status and fame. Not a mentor, not a lover, and definitely not your other half. Only YOU can do that.

But here’s the good news: a man “on your level” is enough. Because YOU are enough. You’re MORE than enough! And anyone who mirrors that has got to be as awesome as you are.

In this week’s episode of BDG.TV, I share a personal example of the myth of the power couple. You might be surprised at how much this resonates with you–I mean, we’re all ambitious women, right?

Have you ever dreamed of being in a power couple? Are you in one right now? What are you thoughts on this? As always, the most interesting conversations happen in the comments section, so come on over and speak your truth!

Till I see you below in the comments section, take good care of your sweet heart!

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The DO’s and DON’TS of Booty Calls

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OK, it’s the holiday season. Maybe you don’t exactly have a one-and-only, but you’ve still got that ex-flame that you kinda-sorta keep in touch with. And even though it didn’t work out long-term, you still think he’s a nice guy. And let’s be honest, it’s sort of a sure thing.

That’s what a client told me as she was trying to decide if it was a good idea to call him for a booty call.

“It would be fun, and I’d get my sexy playful juices flowing! Right?”

Well, not exactly. Yes, having a fun night is a great thing, no matter where it goes. But having it with your ex-flame? That can get a little confusing. Why risk getting attached, falling for him all over again, or most importantly, possibly weakening your own self-confidence and credibility. After all, you had a conversation with this guy about how you didn’t want to be with him. So stick to it, woman!

DON’T DO IT.

DO step away from the phone. Instead, go and sit your cute tushy on any bar stool. And know that if you wanted to, you could get laid tonight. You’ve still got it! And if you want it, it’s yours. I know, I know, maybe one night stands aren’t your thing. But just knowing it’s possible is sometimes all you need to get the fun, sexy feelings you were going for all along.

Come on over to the blog and join the conversation. Leave a comment–Have you ever called an ex-flame for a booty call? What happened? Was it fun and light, or intense and not quite worth the trouble? Let me know!

Till I see you soon in the comments, take good care of your sweet heart.

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