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2 Rules To WIN Any Argument

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I’m going to tell you a true story. (Names and details have been changed for privacy, of course.)

Laura and I are sitting across from each other at a local coffee shop, talking about her long-distance boyfriend. He’s in San Francisco, she’s in NYC.

She wants him to use the word “us” more often. She wants him to be faithful while they’re apart. She wants him to stand up to his mother.

Laura didn’t tell me any of this explicitly. She only told me how dreamy he is, how much she loves him, and how their lives together could be so perfect…if only he’d make a few little changes.

So I listened. I didn’t tell her what to feel–she already knew exactly how she felt. Instead, I told her what to say so he would listen too. Only then could she win the argument (or any argument for that matter) she had with him.

Let’s be clear, I know arguments aren’t always about winning. In this case, “winning” is communicating clearly and effectively (even while tears and snot are dripping down your face).

Watch this week’s episode of BDG.TV to find out what I told her.

Do you agree or disagree with my advice? Have YOU ever had an argument where you wished you’d done things differently? Let me know in the comment section below.

Till I see you soon in the comments, take good care of your sweet heart.

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HELP–He only Facebook PM’s Me!

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Picture it: You meet a guy, and you’re getting along great. You flirt, you give him your number, and then…you become facebook friends. Seems harmless, right?

But the next thing you know, the only way he’s communicating with you is through facebook private messaging. At first it was kinda cute. But now you’d really love a phone call or (gasp!) a real, live face-to-face date one of these days. However, it seems the only way to get his attention is to respond to his facebook private messages.

For you, maybe it’s texting. Or twitter. Or instagram. But no matter how it’s happening, the communication just doesn’t feel like enough. What does it mean? And what can you do about it?

Well, that’s what I’m talking about in this weeks episode of BDG.TV. Watch below, and find out the two things it could mean, and the one single thing you absolutely MUST do about it.

I know you’ve dealt with this before. Who’s communicating with you on facebook or text or twitter? Are you cool with that? Do you want more? What do you do, and what do you tell them?

Come on over to the comments section and let me know what you think. I can’t wait to hear about your experiences on this!

Till I see you soon, take good care of your sweet heart.

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Stop Worrying About Getting Hurt

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You probably already know it’s important to be open and receptive to attract your love. But what if you’re worried about getting hurt? Can you stop worrying, and start attracting your man?

The answer is YES. The trick is to understand the 2 Kinds of Hurt. 

The first kind of hurt rattles your sense of self. You know it’s the first kind when you start to ask yourself questions like “Am I a good person?” “Am I deserving of love?” or “Am I mean, careless, or just no good?” You begin to question the very things you know and love about yourself. It could take years of therapy to undo this kind of hurt.

The second kind of hurt rattles your world. For example, when I broke up with my live-in boyfriend I was upset, sad, angry and confused. I was also worried that I wouldn’t have anywhere to live! Where would I go? When would I pack? Ugh..so many things to consider. But at the core, I knew I was still good. And most importantly, I believed that somehow, I was going to be ok. And sure enough, I started to feel a whole lot better in just a few weeks.

My hope is that if you absolutely must get hurt, then it’s the second kind, not the first.

How to make that happen? You can increase the odds with a daily practice of self-love. It can be a morning meditation, yoga practice, or just moisturizing every night to take care of your wintery legs.

Building your self-love now will help you let go of the worry of getting hurt in the future. When you do this, you can feel confident that you won’t get shaken at the core, and you’re going to feel better fast.

I talk about it in more detail in this episode of BDG.TV.

Have you ever experienced the first kind of hurt? The second kind? Both? How did you feel better? Let me know what you think in the comments!

Till I see you soon in the comments, take good care of your sweet heart.

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