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Too Fat to Date

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Spring has sprung! And to get ready for the warmer months I’ve decided to enroll in a six-week challenge at my gym. (Yes, I got to the gym!) The challenge is simple–attend as many classes as you can (both strength and cardio) and measure your change in body fat percentage. I’m pretty excited to get my heart pumping!

I asked one of the challengers what motivated her most, and she bluntly said, “I’m too fat to date. I want to get in better shape before I start dating again.”

WHAT??!!! Too fat too date?!

But she got me thinking–is there an ideal weight, fitness level, or body fat percentage that makes you “ready?” The answer is a Big Fat NO.

What matters most is body confidence, not your body weight. If you’re feeling strong, healthy, and moving toward your optimum form, then you’re gonna feel fantastic! Working out and taking control of your health builds confidence. And when you’re confident, men notice.

On the other hand, if you’re not feeling confident–heavy, bloated, uncomfortable in your own skin–it doesn’t matter what the scale says. It doesn’t matter if your friends tell you that you look great. If you’re not feeling confident in your body than no one’s going to ask you out. Simple as that.

So please, by all means work out, take a yoga class, a zumba class, or go for a long walk! Start building your body confidence, and you’ll become sexy and attractive no matter what your weight!

What do YOU think? Have you ever felt too fat to date? Let me know in the comments section. Can’t wait to hear your thoughts.

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Your Biological Clock

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In today’s episode of BDG.TV we’re talking the big elephant in the room when we talk about dating.

Your biological clock.

Remember that scene in “My Cousin Vinny” when Marisa Tomei declares her clock is ticking, ticking ticking…?

Yeah. Maybe yours is too? Maybe you can’t even hear yours because you’ve pushed it aside for so long?

Look, I’ve spoken to a lot of super smart and successful women who make a huge mistake that they wish they could’ve avoided sooner. They don’t acknowledge their biological clock. They out off thinking about what they want in terms of family and children. And yet, just tenderly giving themselves to the space to consider it could have changed things for them, profoundly.

There’s no big action to take. No declarations to make. Just think about it, what do you want? And then, wait for the answer. The asking alone can make you feel more hopeful, safe, and happy about your future.

But the time to ask is NOW. Not when you’ve already met your man, or after you’re married, and certainly not when you’re choosing neighborhoods according to the best public school districts.

Ladies, I’m gonna be a stickler on this. Please. Think about this now. What do you want in terms of family, kids? Give yourself the space and time to consider it. You deserve it.

Have you given this enough thought in your own life? Let us know in the comments section. I know it’s a sensitive topic but your opinion can help many other women out there. So let us know what you think. Do you want kids? Do you NOT want kids? Have you thought it through?

Till I see you soon, take good care of your sweet heart.

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Why Men Disappear

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“Men fall off the face of the earth like it’s f@*king flat.” 

How’s that for an image, huh? That’s what my dear friend and client told me when she described her dating history. She’d have a great date–yummy meal, great wine, lots of chemistry–and then CLUNK!–the guy falls off the face of the earth like it’s flat!

Sometimes they disappear after the first date, or the third, or after 9 1/2 weeks. But they all drop off without a call, text, or any communication at all. She’s left wondering if she did something horribly wrong. Did she say something offensive on the date? Did she reveal too much about her family? Too little? Or worse, did she just like him too much and ultimately scare him away?

It’s so easy to go inward and ask questions like these. After all, it’s the only information we’ve got, right? But what you don’t know is exactly the reason why he disappeared.

Think about it, he could still be in love with his ex. They could be focused on his career more than settling down. He could be scared of what his mother thinks. It could be anything. And you just don’t know what it is.

I told her the 2 things I know for sure:

1) Thats just RUDE. Come on, he couldn’t even send a text to say he’s moving on?

2) It has NOTHING to do with YOU. How could it? You’re just getting to know each other. If he wanted to get to know you better he would have shared is feelings, thoughts, opinions with you. That’s what makes a relationship strong–communication. But without it, he’s only living inside of his head, thinking his thoughts about his past and his future expectations.

Watch it on this week’s episode of BDG.TV HERE.

I know how painful it can feel when men go away. It’s happened to me more times I’d like to admit. But please just know that you didn’t do anything wrong. It has nothing to do with you.

Has this happened to you? Share below in the comments–has a man just fallen off the face of the earth like it was f@*king flat? Was it after the first date? The third date? The third month? I can’t wait to hear about it!

Till then, take good care of your sweet heart.

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